For the Ladies.....the mistakes we make.
decisions on things that will not endure a life-
time. These have led many of them into wrong
marriages and life time bondage. We need to
identify and deal with them:
1) HEIGHT: Every girl's dream is to marry a tall,
dark guy with a baritone voice, I wonder where
they got the idea that tall guys are better in
marriage. Hey Girls, tall guy can give you tall
problems; it is not the height that matters but the
depth of the guy in God and in character.
2) MUSCLE: Muscular and heavy looking guys are
also lucky, they are seen to be good suitors, and
girls do say "they look manly" "they look like real
men". Sorry Girls, muscles do not make a real
man, character and ability to shoulder
responsibility do. A guy with muscle without
character will use his muscles to deal with you
and batter your beautiful face.
3) A WELL SET HOUSE: A guy with a well set
house is the dream of any girl any day. Many
girls will throw caution into the wind to grab a
man who have a house with King size; beautiful
Italian Settee, micro wave oven, well stock
freezer, home theater, refrigerator, gas cooker,
Plasma TV,6 by 6 bed, well stuff Kitchen, Dining
table, washing machine, dish washers, split unit
air conditioner etc is a dream catch for girls any
day. Sorry girl, a well set house is good but it may
be a well set trouble if the guy is not a man of
character, manners or discretion, he will make
the house look like a prison yard for you.
4) FAT BANK ACCOUNT: Girls are fond of trying
to know how rich a guy is by checking the guy's
phones for bank alerts. They joyfully decide to
marry a guy when they discover the guy is very
rich with fat Bank balance. What a mistake? They
don't want to know where the money is coming
from; they don't even want to know what the guy
does for a living. What concerns them is the
money that is available to be spent. Many girls
ended up finding themselves entangled for life in
this kind of situation, don't base your marriage
on GREED, it won't turn to GREEN.
5) PLACE OF WORK: Some of our girls are in the
habit of making marital decision base on the
place a guy works. You dare not talk of marriage
to them if you are a Teacher or civil servant. You
dare not propose them if you are working with a
small firm, or one man business. What an error?
Girls note that, that a guy works in ACCESS BANK
does not mean he will give you ACCESS to his
heart or peace of mind. A guy that works in
SHELL may put your life in a SHELL forever, you
may not be the FIRST in the life of a guy that
works in FIRST BANK, a guy that work in
GUARANTEE TRUST BANK may not GUARANTEE
your future. He may be working in NESTLE but
not SETTLE you at home, So it is not about where
he is working but about who is working in Him,
God or devil.
6) ROMANCE: A young lady said, "The guy is
romantic, hot and sexy, i will marry him" Stop
girl!!!!, Romance is not enough for marriage. The
truth is, most so called romantic guys don't
remain like that after wedding. Marry a guy base
on qualities that will endure, romance don't last
forever, go and ask married women.
7) TYPE OF CAR: A whole lots of girls will be
enticed by a guy driving a big and expensive car.
Some will not even go out with a guy that does
not have a car. If you want to mess yourself as a
guy, ride on a bike to go and propose to a lady,
you will hear the story of your life. Ladies, a guy
that has a CAR may not CARE for you, life is not
about CAR, it is about marrying somebody that
will CARE for your future.
AND: Most girls will readily marry anybody with
US or UK passports, Lots of girls have destroyed
their lives in the process of looking for somebody
with a foreign passport to marry.
9) HIS PERFORMANCE IN THE CHOIR: It is funny
that some ladies are ready to get marry to some
guys because they are very good in the choir,
they can play Sax, keyboard, drums, trumpet and
sing tenor and Bass very well, I wonder whether
they want to start a choir band in their houses.
10) RICH PARENT: Children of Rich parents are
easy target for many young girls not because
they are in love with them, but they know they
will have access to money and connection. Many
of these guys come from rich are pompous,
cocky, proud and will be terrible and
irresponsible husbands and fathers tomorrow
but girls will not care about that, Most of these
girls do live to regret their wrong decision.
Don't marry anybody just because the parents
are rich, marry the person for who he is and the
love you share together.
11) FELLOWSHIP LEADERSHIP: Many Christian
ladies are ready to die to marry brothers that are
in the executives of their Campus fellowship.
They fight tooth and nail to get the attention of
these brothers, some even go to the extent of
offering their bodies. Many of these ladies do
think that the best of all men are in the
executives of the Campus fellowship, they've
forgotten that A PRESIDENT OF THE FELLOWSHIP
MAY NOT BE A RESIDENT OF HEAVEN.
12) BEDROOM EXPERTISE: One of the most stupid
way to make a decision who to marry as a lady is
to base it on how good, sexy or terrific a Guy is,
in the bedroom. If you base your marital decision
on a man's sexual prowess; you may end up with
a play boy instead of a Husband. You may end
up getting marry to a sex hunter, instead of a
real lover, a universal sperm donor who will
sleep with your sister, house maid, friends, girls
in the neighbourhood, his secretary and anything
in skirt that cross his paths. DON'T GO FOR SEX
GO FOR SENCE.
Written by Pastor Bisi Adewale
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