Xubi's Diaries

Dear Nigerian wife, heartfelt congratulations to you on your recent nuptials. Love is indeed a beautiful thing and I am so pleased that you have met and married the man of your dreams. Surely after all the celebration, you just want to go home and live happily ever after with your other half. To help you navigate towards your future happiness, here are a few words of wisdom from me to you completely free of charge: The first thing you must know about being a good wife is that your in-laws have all the power in your marriage. Regardless of all you thought or imagined in the past, you start to live by their grace as soon as you say "I do". Yes. They can visit your home anytime they like with suitcases in tow and stay for as long as they like too. Simply delete any idea you have to complain – after all, you should be grateful they let their son or brother marry you. Instead, as a good wife, you should concern yourself with more important things like getting pregnant immediately.

I have read lots of things about abuses in relationships. I don't mean abuses like oloshi,oloriburuku and co I mean firstly emotional and physical abuse. But today I am talking mainly on the emotional abuse. You see those guys that typically makes it their life's duty to abuse girls are all of the same kind.They are mostly bullies and these kinds of bullies are not the ones we stand up to and they leave us alone,rather these are the bullies we leave. The abuse comes in this order. 1. Degrading. The bullies here just degrade the lady with words and actions. Just imagine a scenario where you have spent the better part of your evening cooking dinner for your guy and he comes in and says: is this how to set the table?Don't you have matching plates and cutlery?That pain u feel at that moment is abuse. Emotional abuse. And of course later you just make it your duty to get matching plates and cutlery so you can please your guy. That moment you notice that you keep going o

Many Ladies are known to base their marital decisions on things that will not endure a life- time. These have led many of them into wrong marriages and life time bondage. We need to identify and deal with them: 1) HEIGHT: Every girl's dream is to marry a tall, dark guy with a baritone voice, I wonder where they got the idea that tall guys are better in marriage. Hey Girls, tall guy can give you tall problems; it is not the height that matters but the depth of the guy in God and in character. 2) MUSCLE: Muscular and heavy looking guys are also lucky, they are seen to be good suitors, and girls do say "they look manly" "they look like real men". Sorry Girls, muscles do not make a real man, character and ability to shoulder responsibility do. A guy with muscle without character will use his muscles to deal with you and batter your beautiful face. 3) A WELL SET HOUSE: A guy with a well set house is the dream of any girl any day. Many girls will throw caution into th

...........Once someone hurt you, it's harder to relax around them, harder to think of them as safe to love. But it doesn't stop you from wanting them

Hello everyone and hw are you?I have been AWOL for a while now m sorry that's because I had to go to ago Fr my clearance .I an NT fully done tho let's just say I still have 2 other places ti get cleared. So to the topic or today, by one sided friends I men friends that are only my friends not other peoples friends. A friend that we do everything together,hang out together, share secrets together go out together do things together and so on. I really don't like a scenario whereby my friend and I are on our way somewhere and she sees another friend and then leave me to go hit ad kiss and do whatever of do,I mean wat do you expect me to do at that very precise nd very awkward moment?eh?!smile at the both of you excuse you to give your moment?you just put me in very awkward position I don't do awkward. Not ti worry tho I won't do tat to you, I have this standing policy of:do unto others what you want then to do o you. So guys,is there anyone out there in this situa

The Nigeria I want. A country Full of good people Full of love Always willing to give a lending hand A country With its people Who are happy And want others to be happy as well A country With great social amenities With no need to queue for water or food A country With great health system So its people won't die Cos of an ordinary infection A country With good roads So as to minimize deaths by accidents A country With good educational system And great job opportunities That allows for its graduates to get jobs A country Where people love each other Where the Yorubas,Ibos and Hausas Live as one A country Where there is love Which continuously flows As the blood in our body. Happy Independence Nigerians. Written By Me! Pls drop your comments.Thank u.