Couples and Phones!

I honestly feel like saying we are in the days of
smart phones but the people who are using those
phones don't seem to get smarter. The
technological world is selling so much to us and all
we do is consume. We want all the latest devices to
show that we have arrived even when we don't
need them and those companies are raking in all
the money. Check the list of fortune 500 companies
or other lists where big and successful companies
are listed. Next to oil will be companies selling the
devices that you and I are crazy about. That is not
the most painful to me. The most painful is the fact
that smart devices have become so smart that
couples have given their spouses second place after
the smart phones or devices.
Today's greatest threat against marriages might not
be the young girls out there flaunting themselves at
your husbands or the big aristos – rich older men –
promising tempting money to your wives. It may
not be the relatives of your spouse who want your
spouse to marry another person. If we do not
watch carefully, it just might be the smart devices
in your hands. How can I say these? We all know
that communication is one of the strongest pillars
of the marriage. When communication is down
then the marriage is as good as dead. What then is
working against the communication in marriages
today? People are beginning to communicate with
their smart devices much more than they
communicate with their spouses!
You go to work all through the day and are busy
with all the computers or smart devices and you
still come back home to get busy with all these
devices. There are people who no longer give their
spouses attention because they have become so
engrossed with chatting away online and checking
pictures on the various available social media
platforms. I think that the smart devices have made
some people become very insensitive to the people
around them in their houses.
We all have to check ourselves and be sure that we
are not guilty of this act. I dare say that the more
attention your phone or other devices receive the
more attention your spouse will be craving for.
Many people even go as far as buying the very
expensive devices and they cannot give their
spouses a quarter of that money – either men or
women. For some other people, you cannot touch
their devices because of the high value they place
on the device.
Some couples also go to bed with their devices
always. While the other party is waiting to discuss
some issues, one acts out being busy with the device
until the waiting party falls asleep. These kind of
things are things that can create more cracks in
your homes. When other issues come up you will
think that it is those issues that are being over
flooded or the person is just over reacting. You will
not be able to easily connect to the fact that the
smart phone got your attention much more than
your spouse and what you have is a reaction to that
scenario.
You can continue with your smart devices or you
can choose to save your marriage. The choice is
yours. In all of these, I really want you to remember
that the life span of those devices, averagely, will be
from one to three years. In fact, there are people
who cannot keep a phone or other devices for more
than three to six months! But in those seemingly
short months or years, there is enough time to do
more damage than your marriage can bear.
Is it going to be your smart devices all the way or
your marriage all the way? The answer is not in
your mouth but in your actions!
Fola Daniel Adelesi
President/CEO,
Edible Pen.