Xubi's Diaries

Hello all,  How have you been? So, this matter has been a bit confusing for me. In life we don’t stay stagnant, it’s even like a taboo to do, you just must continue moving. Be it in academics, job, life, marriage (No I am not talking about multiple wives all multiple girlfriends), relationships with friends, neighbours co-workers. What I am mostly concerned about is when to know to move on. At what point do you decide this is enough or better still it is time to move on. do you make this decision when everything is fine and fair or when something happens and you just decide it is time I have to move on from whatever particular situation that is.   I have been staying in a particular place for a while, to an extent it is OK but when do I decide I have to get the move on? Is it when I think my finances have improved? Or better still I can think that my finances have improved and at the same time also think yeah I want to save money, I mean I'm not necessarily buying a ho...

Hello all, How have you been? Happy new year, A very dear person close to me asked about my blog, and i was like; 👀👀   I did not realize i had not been here in years 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I think this is because I just use this mostly as a jotter, just kind of like putting down random thoughts and all.  So, i am in a better place now.....at least country wise and in other wise😜. I am doing good and great, definitely not exercising, and trying my possible best to eat healthy.  I really hope to better on here this year, fingers crossed Thanks and take care.   

I came her July 2016 to pour out my heart on what I was going through. Today the same July of 2020, I am here to talk about the same thing. Actually, I have been feeling a little sad for a while, one of two things is also presently weighing me down presently but the major one is the one of July 2016. I became that girl. That girl that waits for a particular person yo call, that girl that keeps nurturing this hope that he will call and says: baby, forgive me, I have been such an idiot, that girl that always wants to give him a call whenever she is happy about Something, that girls that light up when she sees his call, that girl whose whole life revolves around a particular person. I wrote July 2016 that I didn't know how to move on, I still don't. I started think i ng about the guys that I should have given a chance, but I told them point blank I was waiting for the other guy. Very silly of me, I know. But when I look at them, I always compare them to him, and they always c...

as Yoruba's , you would have heard, not one, not two, not three times that do not marry an Igbo person most especially if you are a female. i have heard it. a countless number of times. i didn't take t serious nor take it to heart. But as i grew older, I started taking it seriously. I have met Igbo guys that i liked, we just fooled around , it was nothing serious because i was everly conscious of the no marrying of Igbo thingy. 2019 was the year i understood the reason why. I am not a racist, i like everyone equally but..... there are some buts. Most especially, Igbo peoples that grew up in their states of origin, now those ones are the most difficult. Coming back to University of Ibadan for my MPil programne, i insisted that i nwanted to stay in the hostel, because my laboratory work will take a maximum of 4 months and i can always do the rest from home. Plus what if i get a job and i had to move, the hostel as the best bet. I paid for a 2 man room and i was paired with...

Apparently, as one makes a cake for a wedding to signify the joining of a couple, one can also make a divorce cake to signify the separation of the same couple. Who eats the cake? I am sure it's the female that will make the cake. So who eats it, her alone? Her and her friends? The just estranged couple after signing the divorce papers? Friends and family who came to felicitate with the Divorce?  Why would one make a divorce cake in the first fucking place?  Anyways,divorce cakes are apparently a  thing, in Nigeria, and like all really horrible things in Nigeria, it has come to stay.  Would you eat one if your friend made one? 

Dear Crush,  This really means a big deal to me,  I thought our crush will last into weeks, But after a few stolen kisses, Under the  moon so bright and big, Your crush for me became like death so still.   Dear Crush,  Like a drink you escaped via fizzling out, Like a good you escaped via passing out, Like a mood you escaped via disappearing  out, Like a spirit You escaped via ghosting out. Dear Crush, One day, You will teach for me in angst, And I will be there,waiting , But then, like a Gee that I am, I am gonna fizzle out too, And leave you on this road, Fizzled out to face the work alone.   XubiXhots 2019.

I couldn't sleep, so I went on Facebook and was gmchecking my posts down to year 2013. And I just kept smiling and laughing outrighlty at some posts.  I wrote everything down. I mean everything.  I should maybe start writing it down again. So I can check in maybe 5 years time again and have a good laugh???? Who knows  Maybe Maybe not Sent from my Samsung Galaxy smartphone.

Back in 2015. I am hot sha. Before you abuse me or reply with a 'savage' reply, remember its not your hotness o, it is mine 

You all now my love for actors especially when they are smoking hot. Guess what??? I found another one. i watched 'Cinderella story' back when i was young, i cannot really remember my age then, but it was when as a girl, you see a hot guy and that thing(dunno what to call it), zings through your body making you speechless.  Anyways, his name is Chad, and he is hot, and although he is way way older now, he is still hot, but not as hot as when he was when he was younger.

And it has been a very long year indeed. BTW, before i forget, i am your plug for poultry products, egg, chickens, frozen chickens, turkeys, frozen turkeys, old layers, cockrels, broilers and noilers. Yep, you read that right, Noilers.......

So i just finished secondary school then,and my sister was still in primary school. So she came home with my dad then and brought some aso ebi with her.The conversation went thus. Xubi: Hey who own these          She was looking so forlorn at       the moment Her:  I'ts for you Xubi: Me? Her: Yes,for your wedding. I should probably say I was barely 16 then. Xubi: What wedding? My heart was threatening to burst out of my chest.Infact I think i stopped breathing. Her: Dad said you are going to marry Brother Deji.We are coming from their house.His dad gave us these clothes to give you.Thats the clothe you will wear on your wedding. I think i nearly fell of the bed.Brother Deji was a guy i was mildly crushing on.And i should confess,i was horrified that my dad wanted to marry me off. And then my sister said Her:Its a lie ooo,i don't know where dad got the clothe from,i just brought it insi...

I need a job. i mean STAT#, as soon as possible else i am loosing my mind. I now understand why people are depressed, honestly have you ever been lonely???!Its hell, literally like hell on wheels. How have you been, i am good, just lonely and i think a tad depressed. But hey, things will get better, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Laters!!!!!!

Hey Ladies, a quick question.How do u know you are being propositioned by guys? This is  a serious question.I know some ladies know when the guys just want to hit the sack and go, i know some now when the guy is for real, but how do you know which is which?

So i had a guy friend that wants to turn into a ............i don't even know what to call it,(he has an ex that i think he still likes) come over and we were gisting. All of a sudden he just said:do you know your stomach is big? Ehn?!!!!! What do you mean?! Wen did this iranu start?! From where to where?!! Come and see arinfin o?!! The koko of my gist is this,even if my stomach is big what gives you the right to call me out on it?Is it your stomach?How is my stomach your business? Why don't u wait until i start dating you or marry you before you start pointing out my flaws. Some of you may think i should stop ranting and work on my stomach but the ish is,as human beings we say stuffs without thinking of how the other person will take it. He had no idea how i felt about my stomach,he had no idea if i had tried all i could about it,he had no idea how my stomach made me feel and lastly he had no idea how embarrassing it was for him to point it out. In conclusion,before...

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It's been a while v been on here.lately it seems all I do here is pour my heart out,maybe I need to change the name of this blog to musings of a desperate single girl as there is already single naija girl Lol Either musings or not,its still my tots,pen and ink so I guess it's still d same At this point I just want to thank God for creating Eve out of Adam cos lonliness is a bitch Furthermore,being alone after a breakup is also a bitch Being alone after a breakup and your ex moving on and you remaining stuck will probably be d icing on d cake,I mean d one that chockes one to death. It's torture Pure torture I don't even know how to move on,m stuck on this wave not knowing either to move on or stay at the same spot. For people who have been in this position, how did you move past this??? I don't even have the strength to move past it. I am tired of thinking about it,tired of staying on the same point,tired of being in pain,I don't even have the strength...

I don't know much about Muslim wedding but I know a thing or two abt Christian weddings. The white bridal dress a bride wears on her wedding day signifies a lot of things,one she has to be a virgin,two she shouldn't be pregnant, even the veil she wears on her head signifies that she is pure. Gone are the days when a pregnant bride will wear a white wedding gown and use a veil. The Pentecostal churches even request for  a pregnancy test on the day of the wedding,wierd huh? But they have their point. What churches now do nowadays is to do church blessings if the bride is pregnant and solemnisation if the bride is not. Nice abi?? So it's up to one to determine if one wants church blessings as you have already solemnised yourself,or solemnisation if you haven't Nice concept

Then this post is for you.I have been reading this particular verse for years and tonight it finally got through to me. Joshua1:8 says:This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. It is simple and straightforward. Ist: read your Bible in the morning and evening( preferably the same passage) 2nd: so that you may observe what is written there ( to pass out exams or interviews, what do we do? We study over and over and over) 3rd:after doing these two things, only then will we be prosperous and successful. Can you see my point? It's as a mpke as ABC.Most Christians nowadays don't do this,I won't lie,I don't do this but having understood this particular verse this evening,I will follow it henceforth. I enjoin you to do the same also. Ciai

ello sisters, its being a while but can we talk? Yes, I mean now! Marriage is a good thing. Wedding is nice too. But when the bride's pregnant, When she walks down the aisle bearing a protuding belly, The marriage has being dishonoured. And the bed? Defiled! Then, its no longer 'joining in holy matrimony' It is called Thanksgiving celebration because the couple has already joined themselves. This is the common trend these days, I dont admire nor applaude it. Be the wife before you become a mother. If your pastor didnt tell you, hear this now, Introduction is not wedding... Engagement is not wedding... Dating and courtship aint wedding. 'Will you marry me?' 'I will', is not wedding. 'His papa and mama already know me' is not wedding. Your fiance/fiancee is not your wife or husband. You dont own his or her body and cant demand for it! Marriage is the ONLY license to have sex....... Make the marriage bed before you make babies...

In the lifetime of most Nigerian family settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family  (father, mother, children) where power indisputably rest with the father.The 2nd is after the kids have grown & started working when the power shifts to the mother.The 3rd is when the kids move out of the family house or start their own families when the power moves to the children.We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House.The boss.    During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen.    The father often mettes out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him. The father is the provider for the family & everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences. Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have...