Xubi's Diaries

ello sisters, its being a while but can we talk? Yes, I mean now! Marriage is a good thing. Wedding is nice too. But when the bride's pregnant, When she walks down the aisle bearing a protuding belly, The marriage has being dishonoured. And the bed? Defiled! Then, its no longer 'joining in holy matrimony' It is called Thanksgiving celebration because the couple has already joined themselves. This is the common trend these days, I dont admire nor applaude it. Be the wife before you become a mother. If your pastor didnt tell you, hear this now, Introduction is not wedding... Engagement is not wedding... Dating and courtship aint wedding. 'Will you marry me?' 'I will', is not wedding. 'His papa and mama already know me' is not wedding. Your fiance/fiancee is not your wife or husband. You dont own his or her body and cant demand for it! Marriage is the ONLY license to have sex....... Make the marriage bed before you make babies...

In the lifetime of most Nigerian family settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family  (father, mother, children) where power indisputably rest with the father.The 2nd is after the kids have grown & started working when the power shifts to the mother.The 3rd is when the kids move out of the family house or start their own families when the power moves to the children.We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House.The boss.    During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen.    The father often mettes out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him. The father is the provider for the family & everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences. Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have...